Two Sundays ago, my check engine light illuminated from the calm recesses of my dashboard. If you follow the known folx over at “Black Twitter”, you know that a check engine light is the first sign of the Apocalypse. My mechanic told me that this may happen, due to some parts in my vehicle that were “ready to go”. Nothing critical but could cost some cash. I thought nothing of it at the time, but who knew that my check engine light would be a foreshadowing to the most annoying week I’ve had all year.
All last week, it seemed as if every minute setback I could have happen, happened. I had a mid-major situation at work, which was serious enough to prompt communications and remain in the back of my mind all week. Self inflicted super minor damage to my car due to a tight turn in a drive thru didn’t help me. I went through minor money problems, bills to pay, minor injuries. It was the epitome of the minors becoming major. I was pissed. I asked myself why this was happening to me. Why did I need to be bothered with such bullshit? It really made me angry.
That Saturday, as I sat in the Pizza shop around my way, I heard a loud bang. We all ran out to see a terrible car accident. Two cars collided in an intersection. One car spun off into a wall and hit a pedestrian on a bicycle, knocking him to the floor. The scene looked chaotic. The people involved were all banged up, but all survived. This accident put things into perspective for me. Life is serious, and we all have issues. What I was going through wasn’t a crisis, it was just life! Things could be MUCH worse, and that accident illustrated that point clearly. It was then, that I thought to myself “I could either harp on the negative or do something about it”. So I decided to do a few things to changer my fortune.
1) Accept the situations reality
From the check engine light, to my work situation, to other things, I had to accept the facts. I had to take responsibility for my actions where they were warranted. I had to be real with myself about the level of seriousness involved with each situation. Realism works well for me, so once I knew the truth (or told the truth to myself) I could move on.
2) Find the positive in this situation
The irony in this step is that I hate when people say things like this. Some things there is no positive, but in most, you do find that cliché filled silver lining. My situations opened my eyes and showed me that discovering my weaknesses, and being vigilant about correcting them, would only benefit me going forward. I had to change my perspective in order to succeed and overcome the annoying little situations.
3) Win despite your losses
So I knew that these situations were happening. Instead of letting them happen, I focused on what I could personally control. For my car situation, I took it to the shop, analyzed the costs, and got the repairs done. I also bought parts for the other little nagging things in my car, so they wouldn’t become major. I defeated procrastination by being proactive. That’s a big step for me. In my profession, instead of harping over the BS, I become more on point with what i do now. I will excel, I will be commended, and I will succeed. That’s what I tell myself and it’s produced immediate results!
That check engine light ended up being less severe than I thought. Taking care of that, along with a hole filled muffler, was about 75% cheaper than I originally thought. Not back for the start of a new week.
Take control of what you can, and get the little wins to combat the minor losses.