I was cruising down the boulevards of Instagram last night, and the picture above danced across my timeline. These SomeEcards are super hilarious, btw. This particular card held an abundance of truths within the joke. What amazed me even more about this premise is that all the women who commented on this pic cosigned it fully! It’s no secret that men feel women will spazz on them for no apparent reason, but the illustration above gives us a little more insight into how women use a technique I like to refer to as the Delayed #Reacting Maneuver when communicating with men.
The Delayed Reacting Maneuver is used by women to convey anger or disapproval towards men for a situation which necessarily didn’t occur at the time in which they exhibit said anger. An unrelated catalyst from “situation zero” provided by men triggers this reaction, and leaves men bewildered. This catalyst could be either verbal or nonverbal communication. Let me give you an example.
Tyrone: “What’s up Angie?”
Angie: “Oh nothing, just chilling you?”
Tyrone: “You know same old. Hey did you borrow my pen? I can’t find it and I’m sure I lent it to you yesterday”
Angie: “WHY YOU ALWAYS GOTTA ACCUSE ME OF SOME BULLSHIT?!! I DONT NEED YOUR F*CKIN PEN TY!!! YOU STAY THINKING I WANT ANYTHING FROM YOU!! UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
Tyrone: “Damn… Was it that serious?”
In a situation like this, when this happens to men, we would either leave it alone or dig for the true cause of this outburst. We would later find out that something that we did prior to this benign conversation lingered with the woman until she couldn’t take it anymore and exploded. I did a post a while back on SBM about the men-woman Rosetta stone, and how women have their own language that men need to decipher. You can easily tell if a woman is angry if she is short in her speech and tense. Men will usually act oblivious to this, because we don’t let small things affect us, and don’t want to have a drawn out conversation about putting the toilet seat down or taking out the trash. Our error in this line of thinking is that women won’t let those minor annoyances go, and will hold on to this until you do something equally innocuous which annoys her to the point of psychosis.
This type of reacting isn’t new to me. I grew up with mostly women. Main family in my life is 90% of the women. I’ve seen this first hand. I used to think this was just how women were, but I soon realized that these reactions had patterns. They usually followed previous actions where I thought it wasn’t that serious. What made it worse was when I discovered that these delayed reactions were CALCULATED! It wasn’t a brief crazy moment. This was PURPOSELY orchestrated by women! When I asked for clarification, I got the following answer from a multitude of women:
“Well, we didn’t get to react to the initial situation which angered us, so we wait until the next time and react twice as hard. That way we can address what currently annoys us and bring your past transgressions to the table. It’s killing two birds with one stone!”
Where women will excel in efficiency, they lose in tact, and I think they are cool with that. They find this method of communication therapeutic, while men remained bewildered. Looking back now, I’ve done this to friends and fam in similar situations. I do recognize that it’s irrational and I’ve gotten better with my communication. This quirk is funny to me now because I understand better. As long as we agree that it’s not the best way to communicate your displeasure for a situation, we’re cool. Women, it’s hard for men to understand you already. Don’t go throwing anymore monkey wrenches into our thought processes! Men, recognize these behavioural patterns that women exhibit and engage them accordingly. Understand that every situation that you Kanye shrug off, can be building towards a nuclear reaction.
Women can you admit to using the Delayed Reacting Maneuver? Why do you use it and how often? Men have you seen this happen before? Any way stories?